Luke Bunder

If you're a teenage athlete who gets stuck in your own head after a mistake and wants to play with more flow and confidence, then this tool will help you reset fast and stay in the game. And if you're a parent who wants to support your athlete’s growth without unintentionally adding pressure, this tool will give you the right mindset and language to use. What Is This Tool? When athletes struggle with confidence, it’s not usually because they’re untalented—it’s because they’re too judgmental of themselves. W. Timothy Gallwey, in The Inner [...]

If you're a teenage athlete who struggles with overthinking and wants to play with more calm and confidence, then this tool will help you unlock your best performance. And if you're a parent who wants to help your athlete play freely without adding pressure, this tool will help you know what to say — and not to. What Is This Tool? This game-changing concept comes from W. Timothy Gallwey’s book, The Inner Game of Tennis. Inside every athlete are two selves: Self 1 is the inner critic, the voice that says “Don’t [...]

Do you ever catch yourself imagining the worst possible outcomes before a big game, tryout, or performance? Maybe it’s a championship match, a skills showcase, or even a practice where you want to prove yourself—and your mind starts spiraling. You start asking questions like:   What if I mess up in front of everyone? What if my coach benches me? What if I embarrass myself?   Suddenly, you’re vividly picturing all the ways things could go wrong. This mental habit, often called the Worst-Case Scenario Game, feels like preparation, but in reality, it creates unnecessary anxiety and holds you back [...]

What Are Presuppositions?Presuppositions are the sneaky little assumptions or beliefs that we carry around—often without even realizing it—that influence how we see the world and engage with others, including our kids. They act as mental shortcuts, shaping how we interpret our child’s behavior and respond to them. Sometimes these beliefs are helpful, but other times they can trip us up if we’re not paying attention.For example, let’s say you believe, "My child wants to succeed." When they face challenges or setbacks, instead of getting frustrated, you’ll naturally lean into curiosity and support, seeing those bumps as part of [...]